So often in life, we’re dealt a hand in cards and that’s it. You’ve got to play THAT hand, but we don’t like it because we have no control. Like life, we want to choose what we want, when we want it. We want CONTROL of at least a few things to make us feel independent and a sense of purpose. There are two things many of us can control: Stuff and money.
Stuff – you know all that stuff in your home, attic, garage, basement, closets, cars, shed, under your bed and for some of us, numerous other nooks and crannies. There’s a simple philosophy that I abide by and it is:
1) Stuff = Responsibility
2) Responsibility = Stress
3) Stress = Unhealthy (and I want to reduce or avoid stress).
Congratulations to many folks who have taken the steps to “Marie Kondo” your life. Many bags and boxes have been donated. A friend filled a dumpster last week. Others have a hybrid system of sell, give away, donate and throw away. This is not a “how to” make a photo album of the items with attached memories and then donate. Nor is it, advice about keeping items that only bring you joy. It IS a reminder about control. YOU control your stuff whether you have a lot of it, or you take a minimalist approach. Find the delicate line between out of control and control.
Money – If you’re lucky and have an income now, this applies to you now. If financially, things are tight, then make a note for later.
You can control your money. It does not control you. However, sometimes, other people want to control and influence what you spend. Many of us are hyper-focused now on those things that are truly important in life. With no commute and less time invested in our business attire, we have the time to observe and ask questions about how we live our lives. Apply this focus to money and you have a recipe for including those expenses you need and want, and eliminating others that are no longer valued.
In our home, for example, we’re saving money on going out to eat and drink. We are truly enjoying homecooked meals and a glass of wine – both of which are less expensive at home. Those surplus funds are going into emergency (short-term) savings; we control this and feel safer having this cushion. I love the combo of spending less and saving more. You too? We also like having a take-out meal at least once a week from our favorite restaurants that we’d like to have around for the long-term.
I’m not suggesting an austerity budget, but rather reviewing your credit card bills and bank statements. Even if you do not have to adjust your costs, you will feel empowered to know where the money is going and to consciously control the outflow.
You’re right. There are SO many things we can’t control. BUT, we can control our stuff and our money.
May we savor the memories of veterans who have served us this Memorial Day.